is there a Relationship in your life that you would like to change?

someone who matters to you, but something between you doesn't feel right?

there are misunderstandings, insinuations, accusations, mistrust, fights, speechlessness, strong tensions, avoiding each other, alienation...?

there is something you have to work out or decide togehter - but when you talk about it, you get into a fight and make no progress?

there is a meaningful change or a loss in your life, and you need support for your relationship?

If you want to work on your relationship, I would like to support you - as partners, as split parents, relatives, friends, colleagues or housemates.

In my view, the key to changing a relationship is connection. When people are in connection, they can accomplish together what they want to accomplish, and they can meet even big challenges. But when there are tensions between people, they often find it hard to stay in connection. That's why I want to support you in getting (back) into connection.

Being in connection doesn't mean things are easy and harmonious.

Being in connection means

feeling an inner YES to being with each other in this moment, even if it's difficult

facing each other in an authentic way, really showing yourself and seeing each other

meeting your challenges together, not as opponents.

 

I offer you a space in which you can be yourself, where all your feeling and emotions are welcome, and where more than talking is possible - because in some moments talking doesn't help.

First your connection, then your topics

Whether we feel safe enough to deal with tensions and conflicts, depends on how our nervous system judges the environment we are in. Sometimes, experiences and imprintings cause us to feel unsafe in places where we are not in danger, or unsafe with people who aren't actually a threat for us. When we feel unsafe, we are in a protection mode, and not really in connection with ourselves. And when we aren't in connection with ourselves, we cannot really go into connection with others. We might seek safety in them - but that we can only find in harmonious relationships. We cannot at the same time find safety in someone and manage a conflict with them in a healthy way.

The basis for relationship work is therefore that everybody feels so safe in the situation that they do not need to look for safety in the other person. For many people, this doesn't come automatically because they have learned from experience that they need to protect themselves in conflicts, rather than open up. Gladly, we can influence our nervous system. We can tell ourselves that we are in a safe environment - but the much stronger impact goes through the body.

You can influence your nervous system: by the way you breathe, through movement and touch, and by leading your attention to your body. I support and accompany you in doing so, and we find out what helps you most.

It is only when everybody feels safe enough that you go into connection with each other. And it is only when the connection between you is palpable for everyone that you enter into the topics you want to work on together. I hold the space for your process and I watch out for your connection. When it shakes, gets weaker, tears off, we halt - and make sure you find back into connection before you go back to your topic.

For it is only in connection that controversial issues can be worked on in such a way that noone feels overlooked, and that everyone can identify with the process and the result. Decisions you make while you're in connection will last, because you were present in the process - not only physically present, but fully present - and have consciously contributed to it.

In the process, you get to know yourself and each other in more depth, and you build more capacity for being with tension and conflict rather than having to avoid them.

Orientation call and costs

I offer a free orientation call via telephone or Zoom. We have 20 to 30 minutes to talk about your challenges and your goals, and we find out together whether and how I can support you.

If we decide to work together, each session takes 90 minutes and costs 140.

There is a specific topic you want to work on? Then a few sessions might do. If you want to go through a deeper process, we will need more time. Maybe six or eight sessions, maybe more.

Sessions take place in a beautiful room at Seetang & Holz, not far from the main station (Bremen Hauptbahnhof).